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Feeling Settled: Confidence as a Wedding Photographer

by | Jan 5, 2023 | Meet Christopher

February 9th marks my 20th anniversary photographing weddings. I’m feeling settled in a new way.

I feel more confident than I ever have — not in an egotistical way, but more like my work has matured. I’ve gained wisdom from years of experience… Malcolm Gladwell would point out that I’ve definitely hit my 10,000 hours.


These years of experience contribute to the sense of calm I bring to each wedding.

I used to be motivated by the idea of “more, more, more.” More clients, more photo sessions, more awards & recognition, etc. But now I know, more doesn’t necessarily mean better.

Better is: 

  • A new confidence in being
  • A willingness and eagerness to create, play and experiment
  • Truly listening for what’s most important to my clients
  • Leaning into the love of what I do & practicing gratitude for every opportunity

Wedding postponements and cancellations during the pandemic helped me learn this, and so did building deeper, personal relationships with my clients.

I wish I could give this confidence to my 14-year-old self, or even my 30-year-old self. That would be a gift

But I’m happy to have found this feeling now. It’s going to be a wonderful year.

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